Leave, Left, Gone (ideas on marriage and divorce)

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." - Genesis 2:24

I am convinced that many of us believe that we already did "leave" but in reality we did not, I am convinced we do not know what it means to "leave". We fail to "leave" and therefore we end up leaving our spouse. Leaving our spouse by either checking out mental, emotionally, spiritually and which will more times than not cause us to leave physically (divorce).

In scripture the marriage between a man and a woman is compared to the marriage between the church(believers in Jesus Christ) and Jesus Christ. (Eph 5:22-24,33; Eph 5:25-33).

When we first become believers in (become married to) Jesus Christ, this is what scripture says in 2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come."

We are new!!! EVERYTHING ABOUT US IS NEW!

We are new because we have given our lives to Christ, we no longer belong to ourself but to Christ. "...You are not your own, for you were bought with a price" says Paul in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20.

Can these same ideas be applied to the marriage between a man and a woman?

I am convinced that they should be.

Until we start to understand and apply these verses to our marriage, we will never grasp the idea of what Genesis 2:24 is talking about when it says, "...leave..."

Why cannot we grasp this idea?

To leave. We continue to not do it.

Yes we may have left our parents house physically, emotionally, spiritually, economically, etc...

But have we really left the ideas and customs (mentality) of the home we grew up in?

Why can we not leave our past, of what we experienced our parents marriage to be? Watching them perform their roles, the way they treated each other, their love, their sin; though also the way they treated us, both pampering and/or abusing us.

We are called to leave.

To leave our father and mother.

So I ask myself, who or what is my father and mother? Yes I know who my father and mother are but I am convinced that is it something much deeper.

What does it mean to leave?

It literally means to forsake or loosen bands.

So when we decide to give our life to someone in marriage.

We are called/told to forsake our former life.

Whether it be under the authority of our parents being pampered/abused or our own independent selfish lives. We now leave all of that aside, no matter how hard it may be, to serve the one that we love.

Divorce is sky rocketing on a daily basis and I am convinced it is because we have not fully grasped what it means to leave.

We actually bring our parents, our former lives, selfish motives, objects, subjects, whatever it may be into our new life of being married.

Our backpacks and purses are full of our past and we must drop them if we want our relationships to be enjoyable and even last.

^"1Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. ²Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. ³Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart." - Hebrews 12:1-3

I am convinced that if we want our marriages to last through the good and bad times, we must leave everything about our past lives and understand this: 1. Who I am in Christ, a new creation(creature/person) 2. What Jesus Christ has done for me, He bought me with His blood, I am now redeemed. I am no longer my own but I belong to Him. 3. I must daily "throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles me" and my relationship with my spouse.

I am convinced, marriage is not about understanding marriage roles but understanding who Christ is and who I am in Him. Once I start to grasp and apply this, leaving will be habitual and I will want to leave everything for the one that I love, for the one that I am to grow old with and become "one flesh" with.

Why Me?

Why is this blink of an eye life not lived everyday.
I waste your time just sleeping in.
How did I succumb to this sluggards life.
Led astray by my own selfish enemy.
Who's to blame but I.

I can only live this life through the one Savior
Who can overcome, who will continue.
Who has overcame!

I need not be me.
Thee is in me!
And will overcome, overcame!
This succumbed sluggard life.

And the great I AM continues.
To work with me, in me.
He uses me still

I'm Thinking.
Why me?

Roots Uprooted (It Is Finished!)

What lies beneath is the answer
To my greed filled envy
This anger enthralled hate

My lust filled life

Searching low far high near
"Still haven't found what I'm looking for."

It need be dug up.
It comes from below.
This weariness is within the dirt.
The roots.

The dirty faith I cannot see
Because all I do is continue to flee

Fleeing from looking to The One
From Him who gave me His Son

"It is finished."
It has been finished.
It always will be finished.

Anger. Hate. Greed. Envy
Lust.
Searching.
Uprooted.

It's done.

"It is finished!"


(Thank you! my love, my life, my everything!)

Calvinism Versus Arminianism

Where is the line drawn between God's will and my choices?

My Focal Point

I sit, feed and heed no need
Listen to the Rumble, I stumble, and become humble.

I stress, this mess, and guess to listen less
To that voice, and choice, which gives me no hoist

Those thoughts, that voice, I cannot block out
But I know You're there, You hear me shout!

I know, I need, You more than ever
More and more, every day forever

You are now, and forever will be
My focal point, so I can see.

(Joshua 1:6-9)

Roots Uprooted (It Is Finished!)

What lies beneath is the answer
To my greed filled envy
This anger enthralled hate

My lust filled life

Searching low far high near
"Still haven't found what I'm looking for."

It need be dug up.
It comes from below.
This weariness is within the dirt.
The roots.

The dirty faith I cannot see
Because all I do is continue to flee

Fleeing from looking to The One
From Him who gave me His Son

"It is finished."
It has been finished.
It always will be finished.

Anger. Hate. Greed. Envy
Lust.
Searching.
Uprooted.

It's done.

"It is finished!"


(Thank you! my love, my life, my everything!)

Relevant Sin

Lately I have come to a realization that sin is irrelevant.
My Pater, My Daddy, is not disappointed in my weakness, in my messiness, in my sinfulness
He knows all and is not at all surprised by anything.
If He was surprised or disappointed, He wouldn't be God

God used the sin of Rahab the harlot to bring glory to His name
He used a harlot, a hooker, a whore. Why?

Maybe because:
In 1 Corinthians 1:27 "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. 28He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, 29so that no one may boast before him. 30It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption. 31Therefore, as it is written: 'Let him who boasts boast in the Lord.'"